Monday, October 14, 2013

John 4:17

“I don’t have a husband!” the woman answers curtly. Jesus smiles back at the woman and replies, “Well, what you say is technically true—you indeed have no husband.” John 4:17 EFP

“I don’t have a husband!” is the initial and gut-level response of this wounded woman’s soul.  Denial!  Defense mechanism!  Fogging!  We’ve all done it at some point in our lives.  “I don’t have a problem!”  “I can handle my drinking!” “Porn doesn’t affect me at all—it’s just a stress-reliever!”  The woman could just as easily said, “Mind your own business!” 

Jesus simply asks her to bring her husband and she denies she has one—which, as far as we know, may be true.  We can’t get ahead of ourselves.  Shakespeare’s words in Hamlet would have been appropriate at this moment, “The lady doth protest too much, methinks….”  But most of us, most of the time, would rather throw out a blanket denial than address an area of growth with anyone, especially a stranger.  But denial simply pushes the splinter deeper into our thick skin of complacency, where it can fester and infect surrounding areas.

But note Jesus’ initial response.  Without really knowing what he is going to say next, he begins by affirming her statement—“I have no husband.”  He does not call her a liar.  He does not blow up her obvious attempt to protect herself.  He finds a way to disarm her.  “OK”, he may have thought to himself, “You want t play a little game?”  But he does not unmask her immediately, he affirms her assertion is true, albeit technically.  Jesus displays the heart of his Father, who is always seeking to engage us in a conversation.  He is the pursuer; I am the pursued.  When I throw up excuses or weak defenses in the face of his asking to intervene, He is patient and never overbearing.  But he doesn’t give up.  I, for one, am very thankful.

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